Speak Life

 

Wow, it's been almost a year since I have graced this page with my presence. I guess you can say I took a pause for the cause. Since that cause was trying to get my life together, I will say it was needed and well worth the wait. 

Nothing much has happened in my life besides the fact of always being stuck between life and goals, stay busy or rest and stick to the budget or treat yo self. I'm happy to say that I am getting closer to making a desision about my next venture. 

One thing I had contemplated was going back to school to get my Master's. I went so far as to fill out a FASFA for student loans, I had narrowed down the school and program I would go to and even had my classes and graduation date planned out. But, as my kids grow and they struggle with their own grades, I feel like that would be selfish of me to further my education when my kids aren't even beyond the basics. I need to help get them thru the hurdle first before I can think about furthering my career. Maybe it's mommy guilt, but it just seemed like a lot to take on right now. 

The other thing I had contemplated was opening up Soul Deep Beauty again. My entrepreneurial spirit just won't let me live. It took a back seat to current life situations, but it still beats in me. That being said, I am cooking up some things that are going to change my life and my status- hello somebody, and I can't wait!

I will step out on faith!

I will trust God!

I will be successful!

I will be bold and confident!

God will make room for my gifts!

I am speaking Life into my situation. Now it's your turn.

Wishing you Love, Peace and Soul Deep Beauty,

Rhonda

How to Turn Your Fear Into Motivation

What would you do with your life if money was no object? I don't know about you, but I could spend hours pondering the possibilities. The dream vacations, the business ventures, endless opportunities for my kids, good credit, shoot you wouldn't be able to tell me nothing. So what's stopping me from having all the things I desire? One word: fear.

Fear is a frequent topic at bible study and it is a frequent emotion in my life. Scratch that, as I just learned, fear is a spirit, not an emotion. Only fear has the power to erase your plans and turn them into self-doubt. Well, I have decided that I'm taking my power back from fear. I'm tired of writing in my journals all these dreams and goals for my personal and business life and just simply letting them continue as words on a page.

It is time to put into action all those dreams and it's time to stop letting fear win. I want to share 5 simple steps that I will use to turn my fear into motivation.

1. Daily Affirmations- An affirmation is a statement that you are declaring is true. When you constantly feed into yourself positive affirmations, it leaves little room for doubt. Saying to yourself, "I am capable. I am wonderfully made. And I already have everything I need to succeed," would be a great start to each new day.

2. Vision Board- I am a true believer in vision boards. So much so, that I had a vision board party back in February. Along with affirmations, putting images and quotes up where you can see them on a daily basis adds more positive thinking to your daily process.

3. Face Your Fear- You know how they say that the only way to fix something is to admit that there is a problem? This is certainly true with fear because we may not realize why we do the things we do, but once we can recognize it and call in out as fear, we will know how to handle it. It's hard to admit that you stayed in a bad relationship because you were afraid of being alone or you never went to the doctor for that pain because you feared what the test results would say. You have to face fear and decide to take it head on. You do that with the next step.

4. Step Out On Faith- Faith and fear can not co-exist. Faith trumps fear every time by being one of the most powerful spiritual tools you can receive. The Bible says that "faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen". (Hebrews 1:1) To have faith in not only yourself or an idea, but also in a God who will never steer you wrong is the perfect answer to combat fear.

5. Embrace Failure- No one likes to admit it, but sometimes, even when we affirm, face our fears and step out on faith, we can still fail. But, when you understand that failure and rejection is a part of life you will be able to learn from the journey. Failure is not easy, especially when done in front of others, which most failures tend to do. Just consider it a stepping stone, a change lane signal or an event that needed to happen to develop you character with humility.

I hope that I shed some light onto the subject of fear and helped you start your journey to a more faith driven life. Don't give up and remember that everything you ever wanted is just on the other side of fear.

Wishing You Love, Peace and Soul Deep Beauty,
Rhonda

The Vision Board Party

I've talked about vision boards before and how I truly believe in the power of the law of attraction. There are so many things that I envisioned for myself that have come to pass in one form or another. So much so, that it was time to make another board. But, rather than just sit in my house by myself, I wanted to share the experience and introduce this project to some of my friends.

So I decided to have a vision board party. I invited about 15 ladies out to eat (had to start out small due to the venue). I rented the banquet room at the restaurant and provided the boards and some of the art supplies. I asked them to bring a few magazines and a pair of scissors.

In true form I made little hand outs and I walked them through the simple process of making a board. Here are some of the tips I shared with them.

What is a Vision Board?

A vision board is a collection of images and/or quotes,  used to help you reach your goals and dreams by helping you to focus and visualize them coming true.

Different Forms of Vision Boards

-Physical, usually done on poster board

-Digital, done on your computer or phone: Pinterest, PicMonkey, Vision Board Apps.

Or you can use a combination of both by making a physical board, taking a picture of it and saving that pic as a screen saver.

Themes are endless and can range from a specific goal, inspirational or broad range of life goals.

How to do your vision board:

1.       What do you want? Write down goals you want in any aspect of your life- career, love, family, school, health, or lifestyle. No matter how big or small, if it’s important to you, write it down.

2.       Find images, quotes or anything that represents those goals and paste them to your board.

3.       Place you board in a place where you can see it everyday and at least a few times a week, visualize how you would feel when those goals are reached. Also think about what you’ve done to help guide you and prepare for that goal.

How to make it work for you!

-          Put it up where you can see it!

-          Don’t set time limits

-          Stay positive

-          Keep your eyes open

       -      Be grateful, even if it doesn’t come the way you planned


Here are some pics from the event.

                     

The event was a success. So much so, that I even had reservations already put in for next years party.
So have you been to a vision board party before? How was it and what was the feedback from your guests?

Until next time.

Wishing you Love, Peace and Soul Deep Beauty,
Rhonda

Fear will not stop my destiny

Ok, so it's been a while- over 2 months to be exact, since my last post. Real talk, your girl been going through some thangs. Some life changing, decision making, what 's my destiny type of thangs. And although I have yet to make those things final or complete yet, I now have the emotional energy to put my thoughts to good use.

But, today I want to talk about fear. I hate fear. It is a crippling emotion that can either cause you to do stupid things or keep you from reaching your destiny. I've given too much power to fear and I have come to the point in my life where fear is no longer allowed. The funny thing about it is that I saw myself as fearless because I was able to accomplish just about everything I set my mind to. Not realizing that it was because I'm a smart girl and a lot of things come easy to me (not bragging, it just is what it is).

But, when it came to friendships/ relationships with those around me, I was a mess. I'm sure we all have been stabbed in the back and gotten our feelings hurt, but fear of being the fool twice stops us from our full loving/ giving/ nurturing potential and it keeps us guarded from the one thing we want most- love. Now, if this is too deep for you, feel free to move on, but I am a realist and I know that the only way to conquer something is to confront it. I've decided to fight my fears head on.

Don't get me wrong, it's not going to be easy, but anything worth having is worth fighting for. Because I'm a logical person I used to let my head talk my heart out of or into something that I knew was not the best option for me. Why? Because fear would tell me that I would be lonely, or I would miss out or people are fake and they'll just play me. The fear of failure has stopped so many people in their tracks that they are defeated before they even begin and next thing you know, years have passed and nothing has changed. If you not moving up, then what you doing? Waisting time.

The other (if not the most important) reason me and fear are not friends is because acting out of fear makes faith jealous. If I'm something like the Christian I claim to be, then my faith should overcome my fears. But, fear being the old trickster that she is comes in many forms. She can sneak into your mind at the most inappropriate times and come from the mouths of people you love and trust. The best way to deal with her is to recognize her and tell her to go have several seats cause you not dealing with her.

So here's my declaration for myself- fear is a lie and it will not prevent me from reaching my God given destiny. I'm telling fear to kick rocks. I suggest you do the same.

Wishing you love, peace and Soul Deep Beauty