I'm proud to be a plus sized girl. I love my curves and believe that I'm thick in all the right places. I have even learned to except my stretch marks. Like Madea says, "they the road map to heaven", so you better act like you know. But, no matter how much I embrace my thickness, there are still some things that are not necessarily problems, but slight struggles for a thick girl like myself.
Pants/ Jeans- I haven't had a thigh gap since I was a toddler, so I have a love/hate relationship with pants. One thing I can say about buying a good pair of jeans is that when I rub the thighs together to the point where they are nearly transparent, I can easily turn them into shorts.
Tight Jackets- I am at a weird size. I'm too big to fit a large and too small to fit an extra large. Do you know how many blazers I have that fit me perfect at the waist but I can't button up past my bust? And who can forget the jackets that are tight in the arms and make me feel like the Incredible Hulk all day.
Walking in heels- Listen, I am knocked kneed and flat footed so to see me walking in some heels is like seeing Peter walking on water. I don't choose my heels by color, I choose them by how long I can wear them before my foot starts looking like a popped can of biscuits. My closet consists of a lot of 3 hour shoes that I usually back up with some flip flops. But, just like a woman, I can not stop myself from buying a cute pair of heels.
Shapers- Part of me wants to rid myself from the sausage casing called a body shaper because I'm sure in some countries they can be considered a form of torture. But, I also hate to see muffin top, dimple booty and back fat, so a girls gotta do what a girl's gotta do. Even today as I write this I am wearing a shaper underneath my dress. I may not have any back fat showing but it sounds like I'm wearing corduroys.
Food Shaming- I have been on many a diet, detox and exercise routine. I can and have lost tremendous amounts of weight, but it never fails, I always gain it back. So I decided that I am done with forcing myself to suffer to be back at square one a couple months later. I love food too much, and I am not bout to deprive myself the pleasure of something satisfying to fit somebody else's image of beauty. And although I am currently working on some flabby bits, I am happy with me. One brownie is not going to make a difference, and neither is one salad. I chose to live in moderation. So please know that when you go out to eat with me, you can have a salad if you want to, but please don't hate while I get my life from this pasta. I'm going to also need another bread basket. Please and thank-you.
Peer pressure- My co-workers be at work talking about their daily protein drinks, comparing the number of steps they take everyday and swapping healthy slow cooker meals and I be like, well, I'm bout to just eat this cookie right here. I respect every ones right to eat healthy, but I will not be subject to the side eye given because I choose a carb lifestyle.
Of course, I'm just being silly with that last one. While it is important to lead a healthy lifestyle, everybody wasn't made to be a size 2, and a smaller size does not automatically mean you are healthy. One of the goals with my business, Soul Deep Beauty, has always been to help women maintain a positive body image and to love the skin that your in. True beauty is more than skin deep.
Share some of your plus sized struggles. Remember, we're in this together.
Wishing you Love, Peace and Soul Deep Beauty,
Rhonda
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